It’s currently February and all around are reminders of Valentine’s Day, Romance, & Love and while telling your spouse, partner, and loved ones how much you love them and mean to you is important, there’s generally someone missing in all the hype…YOU. Self Love is important and affects how you see not only yourself, but how you interact with others, and how you react to situations that come up in life.

What is Self Love?

It is the appreciation of yourself and acting in ways that support growth of your mind, body, and spirit. You don’t need to fool yourself into thinking you have no weaknesses, but rather be able to act with compassion towards yourself.

How to Strengthen your Self Love Muscle?

✶ Be mindful and pay attention to what your inner voice says and how you feel when you look in the mirror, when you rest, when someone is unkind to you. If you find your inner voice saying something negative, then tell it “no!” and say something supportive to yourself. Remember to try to be as compassionate to yourself as you would be to a friend. Taking up a meditation practice, even for a short time every day, can help keep you centered and aware. 

✶ Practice self care by doing things that help your mind, body, and spirit. Some examples could be connecting with people (who aren’t toxic!), get enough sleep, eat well, move your body in healthy ways, reading something enjoyable, learning something you’re interested in, and doing things to connect to the divine. Be sure you take the time to do things you enjoy.

✶ Set some boundaries and don’t agree to do things that exhaust you mentally, physically, or spiritually. Live intentionally and with purpose.

• Remember to act with compassion for yourself. We all make mistakes and it’s part of being human. Learn and grow from your mistakes rather than beating yourself up about them. Also, no comparisons! We are all on our own path and you aren’t seeing the whole picture of someone else’s life.

✶ Affirmations can help change your beliefs about yourself. Use one or a couple and say them (out loud is best) in the morning and before bed. You can write them on a sticky note and put them on the bathroom mirror or somewhere you will see them so you remember to say them. Here are some examples:

“I am worthy of Love.”

“I am strong enough to overcome challenges I face in life.”

“I am worthy of compassion.”

“I honor my body and it deserves Love and respect.”

“I am beautiful inside and out.”

✶ Working through energetic blocks can help. Sometimes we get stuck energetically and it makes it hard to react to situations in positive ways because our energy is blocked. Energy healing can help clear energetic blocks and get your energies flowing correctly again. (Remote sessions for energy healing are available.)

✶ Setting intentions and keeping them in our thoughts can help as well. Working with crystals whether as touchstones or in grids can help you with your intentions. Choose a crystal for a touchstone to keep with you or choose several crystals to set up in a grid. This way you can be reminded of your intentions and the crystalline energy will help you with your intention.